The truth to the story is that it was his best friend, John Nolan, formerly of Taking Back Sunday, currently in Straylight Run. Jesse Lacey felt uncool and sat around his kitchen while he watched John Nolan and his girlfriend flirt. The events lead up to betrayal and Jesse disregarded both of them. John Nolan, however, had a reply to his defense in Taking Back Sunday’s “There’s No ‘I’ In Team”.
“And is that what you call tact?
You're as subtle as a brick in the small of my back.
So let's end this call, and end this conversation.”
These lyrics appear in both songs, but in TBS’s response it is followed by “That’s right, he said it.” With “he” referring to Jesse Lacey, the song is about how he blows things out of context and should just forgive and forget.
The two bands, Brand New and Taking Back Sunday, actually performed this song together calling it, “There’s No ‘I’ In Team or Seventy Times Seven, which ever song you heard first.” In Bolder, Colorado in 2000. It appears as if Jesse Lacey did forgive to an extent; the bands Brand New and Straylight Run have recently toured together, which has indirectly let everyone know what had happened is now basically over and done with.